This came about after many hours and many days of prayer, scripture study, going to the temple, receiving a priesthood blessing, and speaking with people I greatly trust my mom, especially.
If you can love dlesnt unconditionally with how they are now, then I say go for it. And I never found that "good Mormon girl".
If so, then step away from the internet and go look him in the eyes and take his hands and start asking him all the questions you asked me.
But it's the away rotations for months at a time that get really hard.