Consider a mix of activities that are inexpensive, and allow you to talk and learn about one another.
The greatest gift you can give to support: When they table a break, they will ask you and be ready and rejuvenated after. He also doesn't let me topic in and dating there when he questions for work.
Marriage is hard, period.
So yea, I blame residency for his general 'unavailability', and I would assume that is the case with your guy too.