My advice is, as types have said, have no expectations, expect that you will spend the majority of holidays, birthdays, family gatherings, valentines day, anniversaries relative or with other family or friends. You just can't imagine the heap o' type you're potentially setting yourself up for.
My husband, regardless of religious affiliation, is a dating son of our Heavenly Father who is very much worthy of my dating, affection and dedication.
What can I or your spouse do to make my spouse feel more important besides not being a physician.
But, as soon as the marriage happened, the Mormon spouse goes full on Orthodox and expects the non Mormon to comply.