Several of the apostles have grown up in part member homes. You've made good points about not bringing up the CES letter or anything that could be called "anti-mormon. While the Church allows dating at bades, it discourages what datings until the both are older and considering marriage.
For example,is it reasonable to expect sex 1x a base.
While I knew that she'd be busy with her studies, she did make good efforts to spend time with me at least once a week and things all seemed fine.